Marissa Carter and Sarah Hegarty are
Marissa Carter - owner of Carter Beauty Blackrock and Cocoa Brown Tan and am also the Beauty Editor for Irish Parent magazine. I’m married to Ronan and we have a one year old little boy, Charlie and live together in Glenageary with our dog, Cherry.
Sarah Hegarty - Digital Marketing Consultant. Newly married to Aaron, married September 2012.
Where are you from and how many siblings do you have?
Marissa: I’m from Monkstown and am the eldest of eight children. Five brothers and two sisters.
Sarah: From Blackrock originally, now living in Grand Canal Dock. Have two younger brothers, Jonathan and Simon.
From left: Ellie, Ailbhe, Una, Aoife, Sarah, Maud, Marissa and Aoife
How did you two meet and how long ago?
Marissa: I don’t have very many memories before the age of 4 so it feels like Sarah has always been in my life. One of my earliest memories of Sarah was snuggling up with her in the ‘Leabharlainn’ (Library) in senior infants and being completely shocked that she could read in English. I only knew how to read in Irish and at that, I couldn’t read sentences. I can honestly say that Sarah is responsible for my love of books. No one in my family reads but Sarah used to give me all of her Sweet Valley High books to read when she was finished with them. I like to think our taste in books has improved over the years! We still share books. The very first slumber party I ever went to was in Sarah’s house and I remember how at the age of 7 she cared so much about making sure everyone had a blanket and enough to eat. She’s still like that. Sarah is the hostess with the most-est! She’s so caring and generous and always wants everyone to be happy. Ro and I still can’t get over how much fun her wedding was. No one and I mean no one’s attention to detail is as good as Sarah’s. I’m always calling on her to proof my packaging for Cocoa Brown or brochures for Carter Beauty.
Sarah: Marissa and I have known each other since Junior Infants in Scoil Lorcáin in Monkstown. That’s over 25 years ago now which is terrifying, as it does not feel that long ago at all. We then attended Coláiste Íosagáin in Stillorgan and after 14 years in school together, we’d formed a close-knit group of friends and there was no getting rid of each other after that!
From left: Maud, Sarah, Una, Aoife and Marissa in 6th class of primary school
What were your first impressions of each other?
Marissa: I can’t remember my first impression of Sarah but it was probably that she was a genius (not a maths) but everything else! Sarah was also always so well dressed and stylish. She went to hair-dresser when the rest of us had bowls put over our head for the yearly ‘bob’ cut. She actually had a hair style. We all wanted to look like Sarah and have her wardrobe! If I met Sarah now for the first time, I’d probably still want her wardrobe but I’d also think she was one of the friendliest people I’d ever met. Sarah’s that friend you bring to a party and she’s like glue – she holds the group together. She makes sure everyone feels included and will go out of her way to make the shyest person feel welcome.
Sarah: I can’t really recall my first impressions of Marissa. When you know someone as long as we have, it’s as if they were always there, and there are no official introductions in the playground! I do remember a very early memory of Marissa’s artistic ability, she taught me that when I drew pictures of people, it wasn’t just circles joined together, but that they actually had to have necks too. I was amazed at this fact at 5 years of age!
Marissa has always been very mature for her age, something I think that comes from having so many brothers and sisters. She was also always the first person to experiment with beauty treatments, first one to dye her hair, pluck her eyebrows even shave her legs when there was no hair to be shaved! Marissa loved to ‘practice’’ on us while growing up and was always supremely confident with the results, even though a few of us were left with distinctly wonky eyebrows that Marissa convinced us were just perfect!
We’re fortunate enough to have a fabulously close group of 5 friends that all attended primary and secondary school together-Marissa, Myself, Aoife, Úna and Maud. We’re all quite opinionated however and there have been some major arguments over the years, as groups of girls are wont to do, but I’d like to think that this has helped Marissa become the business woman she is today. If she can argue her case against us four, anyone else will be a pushover!
From left: Marissa, Una, Sarah, Maud and Aoife on their way into The Palace nightclub on Camden St with their fake IDs!
Why do you think you get on so well?
Marissa: I think we get on so well because we both ‘feel’ our way through life. Sarah’s extremely empathetic as a person and a bit like my husband, always knows the right things to say to put things in perspective. If you ring Sarah with a problem, you’re not getting off the phone from her until the problem has a solution. She’s not one for mulling over stuff. She’ll get to the crux of the problem within minutes and then spend the next hour convincing you that you don’t really have a problem at all that the solution is as easy as 1,2,3. She could literally sell water to a River. What I love about Sarah is she has an incredibly calming effect on me. I know if I ring her, I will feel ready to take on the world again once I hang up. I also think we get on so well because we have a lot in common. We both love nice restaurants and eating out; fashion and beauty of course and Sarah knows how to have a good night out! On a serious note though, I think professionally we have a lot in common and I think now that Sarah is self-employed we have even more in common. We both absolutely love marketing and studying consumer trends and exploring new opportunities. That sounds very boring altogether, but it’s true! We could spend the whole day talking about business or equally spend the day talking about absolute rubbish!
Sarah: Marissa and I get on particularly well because we share so many of the same interests. Over the years our interests have changed, however were always broadly in line, in our teenage years/early twenties this mostly centred around going out! Marissa was always great at blagging our way into places and also brought her creative skills to the table again by ‘’customising’’ our outfits, i.e cutting them up to show more skin!
I’ve also recently started my own business and Marissa has given me lots of advice and insights into this brand new world. We’re both crazy about beauty products and fashion, one of the many perks of her new gig as Beauty Editor of Irish Parent Magazine is that she shares her beauty spoils and brings me to events!
She has a serious side though, and is a brilliant person if you need a proper heart-to-heart, as she knows exactly when to give advice and when you just want someone to listen to you vent.
Marissa is always very supportive of me, particularly if I am having doubts about myself. I will often talk myself out of things if I don’t think I can do it and Marissa will always be there to reassure me that I’m able to do anything if I set my mind to it.
Marissa and Sarah on a frequent night out together in Club 92
How much does your friendship mean to you?
Marissa: I probably can’t put into words what our friendship means to me. Between Sarah, Aoife, Maud and Una – the four of them – they have been my rocks, my best friends, my partners in crime and my shenanigan buddies for as long as I can remember. There’s something very soothing having such a strong bond with my friends. There’s a trust between us that will come with us to our graves. Now don’t get me wrong, we often kill each other but we’ll be friends forever, of that I’ve no doubt.
Sarah: I know that I’m so lucky to have the friendships that I do. No matter what is going on in all our lives, if someone is in need, I know I have four great girls that I can count on for anything. We’ve all gone through some tough times over the years, and it gives me great happiness to know that we’re always there for each other.
My friendship with Marissa has definitely changed over the years too. We’re definitely closer now than we were when we were in school together, as our interests are now much more aligned and I think we have more in common with each other.
What I appreciate most about Marissa is that I’m extremely comfortable around her as we’ve so much shared history. She knows everything, so there’s never any explaining, which makes our friendship so easy-going. I also love how candid Marissa is, she’ll always tell you all the gory details, something I really appreciate, however terrifying her stories of childbirth might be! She’s so much fun to be around too, with a very bold streak that I love.
From left: Aoife, Una, Sarah, Marissa and Maud at Sarah’s Hen Party
Are you in contact often?
Marissa: We go through phases of talking every day and then mightn’t chat for a week or two but that doesn’t affect how close we are. We see each other about once a month, which doesn’t sound like a lot but when we’re all so busy with our lives, it is good enough I think!
Sarah: We all have busy lives, but Marissa and I have the type of friendship whereby we can dip in and out of contact, sometimes talking daily and then sometimes not for a few weeks. In recent years it has been more frequent and I always joke with Marissa that I feel like I am in contact with her by following her Twitter feed, prolific tweeter that she is! The girls also manage to get away together at least once a year, in the last year we were in Galway for my hen, Belfast for Marissa’s birthday and are also looking forward to a week in the South of France in June to celebrate Maud & Andy’s wedding.
From left: Marissa, Maud, Sarah and Una at Maud’s engagment party – a very special photo
What has your friendship taught you?
Marissa: Being friends with Sarah has taught me to weigh up the pros and cons of an action before diving in head first. There’s no better woman to help you analyse a situation or opportunity. Even though she’s rubbish at maths, she’s got an analytical brain that can solve problems before the rest of us even cop there IS a problem! Now sometimes, if I think Sarah might talk me out of doing something crazy or wild, I won’t tell her I’m doing it until I’ve done it and she’ll usually tell me I’m a jammy wagon but sure she’s my best friend, she knows I am!
Sarah: Marissa’s prowess for business has been massive inspiration for me. I admire all the work she juggles and I enjoy helping her out when I can, bouncing off different business ideas, website & marketing advice etc. She’s such a little go-getter and manages to balance so many things, yet is always happy to take on more, if it is going to further her career. She is also a fantastic Mum and I really admire how she can switch from making a difficult business phone-call, to playing with Charlie on the floor!
She’s very supportive of any of my endeavours, and is always there to give me help and advice when I need it. Marissa may make it look effortless, but she works her backside off and has done since she started Carter Beauty. She inspires me to succeed in my own business and hopefully make it look as effortless as she does. She also gives me hope that when I have kids, it will be tough, but that it’s totally manageable and obviously worth all the work!
Overall I am so glad that I have Marissa to support me, she’s a brilliant friend and am very thankful that I have her on my side, whatever life may throw at me.
From left: Una, Maud, Marissa, Sarah and Aoife at Marissa’s 30th
- Marissa’s Wedding Day